We are almost done with the week, so I thought I would leave you with something that is important to me. I’m sure this could easily be a debatable topic by personal preference, but I wanted to share my experience and why I think this way. So, here are a few reason why I do not regret being selfish in my twenties. Growing up in the midwest I have learned that most people/friends my age have taken a certain path. It’s graduating high school, going to college, finding ‘the one’, getting married, getting the job, and having kids…and a lot (in my experience) all do it by the age of 26-27. I obviously chose to take a different path..a ‘selfish’ path as I say. And yes, selfish doesn’t have the best connotation, but I use it because I did put myself first in my twenties…and I think that is okay.
For me, it was much more important to find myself and my career long before I could fully commit to a husband, a home, and definitely children. I did meet my fiancee my sophomore year of college, but immediately told him (before dating) that my career is important to me and I will, at some point, move away to achieve it. Luckily, he supported me the entire way…and we never looked back. (And after 8 years finally getting hitched).
Now that I am back in the Midwest I am definitely surrounded by married couples and children, so even though I’m ‘behind’ as it seems, I wouldn’t change it for a second. I would recommend anybody who is recently out of college to be a bit selfish and focus on building your career, making new friends, traveling, and having fun. I won’t say it was super easy living in NC on my own, missing my boyfriend, holidays, friends gatherings, etc but I realized that I will have the rest of my life to do that once I figured my shit out and really experience independence.
So, for those who do read my blog and are just starting out in any career, don’t feel bad for putting yourself first..we are still young and have plenty of time to ‘settle’ down. I’m pretty sure it will pay off in the end and be well worth it! Selfish doesn’t always have to be a bad thing (within reason of course ;)